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We spoke last night at length and my darling husband was all guns blazing, regarding a complaints procedure, he was furious that the social worker who appeared to be listening and writing hadn’t clarified the information she held, that she hadn’t spoke up and admitted she didn’t understand what we were saying and that she then reported it wrongly to her manager.

A very long and hard persuasion was now my task in hand.  I had spoken with a very good friend who is a foster carer and adoptive parent and she advised a complaint would most definitely only cause us future problems should we stay with this LA.

I know my husband well and telling him he is wrong is not always the best way to go about calming him down, so I relayed all of what I had been told by posters on Adoption UK and my friend to him and suggested that maybe if he called with them to discuss this calmly, then they may reconsider their decision.

The manager was again very adamant that we should go away and carry on considering our options and come back in January.  One thing we had decided however is that even with this small set back we were not going to jump ship to another LA or VA.  Simply because we feel it is more about dealing with the issue head on facing it and telling it you won’t back down, that it won’t beat you. 

So here we are still standing strong and waiting, this will surely show them our determination and united front of our decisions.